A wise man once said, “getting married is the biggest decision of your life. Think it through for more than a few moments.”
Anyone who’s ever thought about popping the question knows just how nerve-wracking it can be. It’s a lot of pressure on a guy. You try to honor traditions like asking for the father’s blessing, you pick out a ring, you ask your parents for advice, you try to make sure you’re fully confidence that your significant other really is “the one.” It’s a lot to have on your plate.
At Colucci’s, one of our tasks is to help make the process of engagement easier in whatever ways—big or small—we can. That’s why we’ve put together a basic pre-engagement checklist that will help you cut down on the worry:
- Make sure you’re on common ground with your significant other on all of life’s “big” questions. Money, religion, politics, kids, careers, goals, retirement plans—all of the values that might be a little touchy on a first date suddenly come to the forefront. If you don’t already know where you and your significant other stand on these important issues, then you should start trying to look for compatibility here before you proceed with the rest of the process. An engagement ring is no joke; make sure you’re certain about your future before you make the purchase.
- Are there any issues that need dealing with before you take the next step? These issues can range from financial issues to relationship issues that haven’t been dealt with. YourTango.com provides an interesting list of all of the “hang-ups” that need to be addressed before you can move forward.
- Have you talked about marriage, or at least the ring? Although the exact moment of a proposal is meant to be a surprise, the fact that you are proposing usually isn’t. Talking about marriage and even the ring can be a very healthy thing, ensuring that you’re both on the same page before you make a decision that you may regret.
- Honoring traditions like asking the father’s permission aren’t always necessary, but they’re a nice touch—particularly if your significant other has a loving father in their life that would appreciate such a gesture.
- Picking out the engagement ring can be difficult if you know nothing about jewelry. But that’s where we come in. You have to first know what you’re looking at when you look at different engagement rings; from there, you’ll be able to make educated guesses as to what kind of ring your significant other might like. Or, if you’re a little less traditional about it, you can skip the surprise altogether and listen to her advice on the subject.
- Plan the proposal before it happens; a haphazard, thrown-together-at-the-last-minute-proposal will come across as sloppy. Sure, your significant other should already want to marry you by now, but that’s no excuse not to make the most of this once-in-a-lifetime moment.
If that sounds like a lot, there’s a reason for that: this is a big decision and you need to be certain about it. We can help with one step: if you need any help in picking out, understanding, or reviewing engagement rings, be sure to contact us.